Not only do the concepts of Love and Logic allow you to set healthy limits and boundaries with your kids, but you will find yourself using the same one-liners when dealing with people in everyday life. Stating what you will do instead of telling people what you want them to do completely sets the tone of the conversation in a positive way. It's not offensive, it's not blaming or demanding. It simply conveys the message, "Feel free to do what you need to do. This is what I'm going to do."
I've also noticed that while I'm saying these words to my children, I'm not seething and fighting the anger that normally comes when they're doing something that isn't wise. I'm in control, I'm relaxed, I'm thinking of what the natural consequence will look like, and I'm not a crazy parent.
This has definitely been an unexpected result in my own personal experience. A result that my kids have noticed, and are wondering what in the world happened to the "old" mom.
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